The Dawn of Discovering Racial Identity as a Transracial Adoptee

I grew up in a conservative Christian adoptive home. My white adoptive parents subscribed to a colorblind mindset. Because of that, I grew up feeling uncomfortable embracing my identity as a BIPOC. The same people who claimed they did not see skin color were also those that called attention to how mine did not match.Continue reading “The Dawn of Discovering Racial Identity as a Transracial Adoptee”

4 Simple Responses Instead of “I Understand” During Tough Conversations with your Adopted Child

With each new racial injustice making the news, I know the work my clients will bring with them to our next therapy session. We will set aside their goals and what we had planned to discuss. My clients’ need to process continued trauma to their community will take precedence over everything else. Increasingly over theContinue reading “4 Simple Responses Instead of “I Understand” During Tough Conversations with your Adopted Child”

A Snapshot; Growing up as an Over- and Misdiagnosed Transracial Adoptee

Lately, I sift through files given to me months ago. I go slowly, because there is a lot. The files go back to when I entered foster care at the age of two weeks. They contain every imaginable detail of a young child’s life. They contain evidence of the systemic racism, discrimination, and stereotyping oneContinue reading “A Snapshot; Growing up as an Over- and Misdiagnosed Transracial Adoptee”

Boundaries, Privacy and Adoption: When an Adoptee’s Safe Space and Narrative is Taken

I want to discuss boundaries and Privacy in relation to adoption. I want us to look a little closer. These excerpts were taken from my personal journal when I was between the ages of 14-16 years old. I struggled greatly during this time for many reasons. Some things that unfold right in these pages. AsContinue reading “Boundaries, Privacy and Adoption: When an Adoptee’s Safe Space and Narrative is Taken”

Adoption Positive Discipline Methods

So better late than never! I had some technical difficulty getting this posted on Sunday, so if you were expecting this. I do apologize! This post is going to be full of different techniques and methods that I have researched and found to be the most effective when we take into account a child’s history,Continue reading “Adoption Positive Discipline Methods”

The Internal Conflict of “self-care” as an Adoptee

Self-Care – That word that has been shouted around the last few years. It’s been used and overused. The list of popular trendy words has self-care at the top (next to toxic). It’s interesting, if you would have asked me if I practiced self-care last year, I would have said “No, I don’t have time”.Continue reading “The Internal Conflict of “self-care” as an Adoptee”

How and why discipline should look different for children who have been adopted, have a history of being in foster care or who are currently in foster care?

Discipline is a part of parenting that is not always fun. It is the part where you have to do the things that do not necessarily make you feel good, but is essential to equip our children with the tools to succeed throughout their life. Discipline does not always look the same. Let’s look a little closer at why discipline SHOULDContinue reading “How and why discipline should look different for children who have been adopted, have a history of being in foster care or who are currently in foster care?”

Paying Attention to the Details

Phewwww, it’s been awhile. In an effort to take care of me, I took some much needed time off from things across the board and focused on my children and family. The overarching anxiety this pandemic has brought from all different directions has been so very real. But that is not what brought me backContinue reading “Paying Attention to the Details”

The Lifelong Journey of Adoption Trauma

Every adoption is different. Some adoptees have more positive experiences then others. Some adoptees were provided a safe space, not to deter the fact that the trauma still exists, but they were supported in handling that trauma in a healthy environment. However, not all adoptions are safe. When I say this, I don’t necessarily meanContinue reading “The Lifelong Journey of Adoption Trauma”

Prioritizing your Child’s Life Over Your White Fragility.

I have been sitting on this blog post as the various events have unfolded over the last few days in regards to George Floyd and his horrific murder. It is hard to put into words the feelings I have felt and continue to process over another senseless murder of an unarmed black man, of myContinue reading “Prioritizing your Child’s Life Over Your White Fragility.”