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I want to discuss boundaries and Privacy in relation to adoption. I want us to look a little closer. These excerpts were taken from my personal journal when I was between the ages of 14-16 years old. I struggled greatly during this time for many reasons. Some things that unfold right in these pages. AsContinue reading “Boundaries, Privacy and Adoption: When an Adoptee’s Safe Space and Narrative is Taken”

So better late than never! I had some technical difficulty getting this posted on Sunday, so if you were expecting this. I do apologize! This post is going to be full of different techniques and methods that I have researched and found to be the most effective when we take into account a child’s history,Continue reading “Adoption Positive Discipline Methods”

Self-Care – That word that has been shouted around the last few years. It’s been used and overused. The list of popular trendy words has self-care at the top (next to toxic). It’s interesting, if you would have asked me if I practiced self-care last year, I would have said “No, I don’t have time”.Continue reading “The Internal Conflict of “self-care” as an Adoptee”

Discipline is a part of parenting that is not always fun. It is the part where you have to do the things that do not necessarily make you feel good, but is essential to equip our children with the tools to succeed throughout their life. Discipline does not always look the same. Let’s look a little closer at why discipline SHOULDContinue reading “How and why discipline should look different for children who have been adopted, have a history of being in foster care or who are currently in foster care?”

Phewwww, it’s been awhile. In an effort to take care of me, I took some much needed time off from things across the board and focused on my children and family. The overarching anxiety this pandemic has brought from all different directions has been so very real. But that is not what brought me backContinue reading “Paying Attention to the Details”

Every adoption is different. Some adoptees have more positive experiences then others. Some adoptees were provided a safe space, not to deter the fact that the trauma still exists, but they were supported in handling that trauma in a healthy environment. However, not all adoptions are safe. When I say this, I don’t necessarily meanContinue reading “The Lifelong Journey of Adoption Trauma”

I have been sitting on this blog post as the various events have unfolded over the last few days in regards to George Floyd and his horrific murder. It is hard to put into words the feelings I have felt and continue to process over another senseless murder of an unarmed black man, of myContinue reading “Prioritizing your Child’s Life Over Your White Fragility.”

Expectations. What are you expecting from the adoptee in your life? Are you expecting them to be themselves or be a version of a fantasy? Are you expecting them to have the same religious views, like the same foods, music and style? To have the same opinion? Are you expecting them to act as ifContinue reading “Expectations.”

Mother’s Day has multiple layers for many adoptees. For me, I have a first mother, a present mother and I am a mother. How these intertwine depends on your individual story as an adoptee, however, there is absolutely no doubt that they are all complex. My First Mom: This is a hard year for meContinue reading “The Mother’s Day Conundrum”

As I started the journey of creating Adoptee LIT, one of my biggest concerns was the name. I wanted something that would capture exactly what I wanted to portray in the work I set out to do. I wanted it to be significant and meaningful. I wanted it to be strong and engaging. I wantedContinue reading “What’s In a Name?”